Wednesday, December 20, 2006

Sorry

In regards to the last post, I would like to apologize to the "teacher" who I may have inadvertently slandered. Although I believed I was being subtle, apparently not enough so. Even though I have the right to say whatever it is I want to say as #1: this is my blog & if you don't agree you can start your own {nice going Erin!} and #2: the first amendment, I am also distinctly aware that I need to operate under God's laws as well. I do not want to be a gossiper {which I struggle a lot with}, but do feel a need to expose/defend the truth. Some people may feel that I was questioning the teacher's intentions, which I didn't mean to do, only to say that I felt misinformed. Actually, I was misinformed whether it was by the teacher or by my own misunderstanding. So, I am sorry if anyone's feelings were hurt/feathers were ruffled/undies were in a grundie. Actually makes me feel kinda important that someone would even care about what I have to say! Also, I am sorry that I broke a rule {you know who you are}!

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I still think we should all go hang out over at Erin's blog though. Keep the posts comin' girl!

15 comments:

Anonymous said...

I don't know who the teacher is, so really I don't feel like I was attacking anyone. And really now that I think about it more...maybe our school district is different than some. SO...maybe the teacher was right in the sense that in her district there wasn't the amount of aide that we find here. I guess I jumped to conclusions when I read the post thinking...hmmm...that's not right.

AND sorry for the non confrontational posts. I am sure to have some "don't put that nacho on my plate opinions".

Erin

Rebecca said...

HA! ROFL about the nacho on my plate! Hilarious! Ok, better not to know who it is....I'm sure every district is different. I wouldn't even have the faintest idea about how ours operates other than the complaints I hear from parents in my neighborhood, lol!

Scott said...

I find it very interesting that people get so worked up over something someone posts on a website. It seems to me that if you have to post something that is meant to clear up what you have already said then you didn't put enough thought into what you said the first time. This is the problem with email and blogs. People spend more time putting stupid little faces next to there comments rather than calling or going to see the person they may have offended. If my memory serves me correctly doesn't Scripture tell us to GO to our brothers (Matt 18?). And for the record, I don't have a problem with any of you... I'm just making a general observation.

Rebecca said...

Hi Scott! Thanks for your input. I wasn't clearing up anything that I already had written, I still believe that to be my version of truth, otherwise I wouldn't have written it. I had already spoken with the person who felt offended, but it is a good reminder that we should go to our "brother" and I really appreciate that my "brother" came to me! Having to clear up something doesn't mean that enough thought wasn't put into it the first time, only that perhaps someone misunderstood or didn't agree. or feelings inadvertently got hurt. I will put a friend's feelings over my blog any day. Thanks for the observations though!

Beth said...

Just to add something that came to mind is that I don't really think men realize(or maybe they totally do but don't understand) that women are so easily offended for the most part. In our groups of women friends we have to worry about how we say things to eachother, how the other women might take it, what kind of day she's having, if she's hormonal(any husband might understand because they get much worse treatment). Men on the other hand can make fun of another guy for being bald, having a little too much weight around the midsection, saying or doing something really stupid and neither one of them would give it a second thought or be offended by it. Can you imagine if we women talked to eachother this way?? We often take everything too personally. I think we have to remember that sometimes it is okay to disagree and it's okay to have heated discussions. On the other hand, we (me especially) have to understand that there are different types of personalities to take in to consideration and to be sensitive to. It doesn't mean that we think differently of the other person or are upset at them when differences of opinions arise.

Anonymous said...

Where's the love?

Anonymous said...

Lol, lol, lol

Dan said...

auWell stated Scott! Go man-power. Let's show these women what we're made of. ;-)

Anonymous said...

ummm boys...shouldn't you be watching football and scratching yourselves???

JK

Erin

Rebecca said...

Beth: I actually HATE that about women. I hate how women can be so catty. I hate not being able to be 100% honest for fear I'll offend someone or hurt someone's feelings. It's almost like you can't even be yourself for just in case your personality might offend someone. Ugh. I think that's why the dominant personalities have a little easier time due to our slightly thicker skin. Not that our feelings don't get hurt, but I think you know what I mean. It also helps to give the other person the benefit of the doubt. Why think that another {especially a friend} would automatically be out to get you? Sad commentary on today's woman.

Rebecca said...

Erin: rofl!!!!! I *love* your sense of humor. so much reminds me of myself at times.

Jori said...

Hey, I used to be over emotional and I used to take everything personally to the core, I did the Genesis Process, and that helped me to firmly realize through scripture and counseling that I am a CHILD OF GOD and all those qualities HE gave me and HE loves about me. I must say, I am not as overly sensitive now which is a good thing but everytime something is said or done intentional or unintentional, i have to remind myself that not only does God love the person who hurt me but GOD LOVES ME. I am sure we all know that but do we KNOW that? I don't think there is anything wrong with being a sensitve women they tend to sometimes be able to see the hurt in people a lot quicker than those with "thicker skin" So both qualities have high points in them whether you are thick or thin skinned, GOD MADE US ALL and ALL totally different if we were all alike we wouldn't have any friends. I hope you all have a fantastic weekend and a Blessed Christmas.!!!

Anonymous said...

grt blog!:)
Happy New Year!

Anonymous said...

I check in on this blog every so often and I am amazed that you are such a hipocrate. You said something about inadvertenly slandering this "teacher" I think you ment to say blatantly slandered. I also think if you would just stop and think about how others will feel after one of your many very harsh blogs you would have to do less apologizing. I mean I know you are opinionated but how about being a little more considerate of others isn't that one of the messages you put for your girls and future children "others before self". I'm not writing this because I want to be slammed (but I have a feeling I will be). I just think someone needs to say it to you. It is great that you have opinions and this opportunity to blog and share many things with others. But you have hurt many people and probably many friendships as well. I won't come back to this blog again (I don't think) because I don't want to have my feelings hurt. That's what this blog has become to me as a reader, who is becky going to offend and who is going to walk away hurt by a person who calls herself a christian. If that is what it's about to be a christian I don't want to be part of your group. I sit here with tears in my eyes because I know you and it hurts me that you sit in judgement of so many of us and you excuse yourself and say "sorry" how about not saying it at all. How about not hurting people. You know you can't take something back after you say it, even if you say you are sorry and say you did not mean that, it is not always good enough, you had those thoughts and you put them down in words and then you probably re-read it and then you clicked to post. You had plenty of time to change things or consider others but instead you decided to post anyway you made a decision. You can't just say I'm sorry and expect to reverse what you've done. I know we are taught to forgive but I think you hide behind "sorry". Well I'm sorry but I don't care to read your posts and I'm really considering not caring to be your friend anymore.

Anonymous said...

Hey Anonymous, settle down for a second. First of all, Becki has not come on her posts and sat in judgement over anybody. She has come on here to share her opinion and get feedback from others who read it. I think I speak for most people on here that she has taken criticism of her opinions very well. You cannot call her a hypocrite without doing exactly what you have accused her of doing which is sitting in judgement over someone. Furthermore, and I see this as the most important part of my comment, you say she hides behind sorry, but her name is on every post and comment she leaves on here. To omit a friendship with someone in writing anonymously for all to see is pretty, I'm sorry to have to say it, pathetic. I don't know who you are and don't care. I probly know you, and have nothing but good thoughts toward you, but the action you are taking is wrong. For someone to bring the Bible into a conversation, "I know we are taught to forgive...", and totally ignore it just to please the hurt you have is foolish. You need to stop taking these comments on here, these posts on here, comments said to you in person as attacks at you as a person. I have plenty of issues with what people who are close to me say, but I must see it as issues and not the person. Please don't give up, and I would encourage you to seek, together with Becki, to restore your friendship to a healthy one, if not only to eliminate any ill will.