Thursday, November 16, 2006

Finished

I just finished reading the book Chasing God and the Kids Too by Cheryl Carter, which I mentioned in a previous post. I can't say enough what a blessing it has been. Here are two things I read today that stood out to me:

We talk a great deal about God's awesome power and our trust in him. The greater question becomes, can God trust us? Can he trust us to have a good attitude no matter how dark things become? Can he trust us to keep our eyes on him and to walk on water to the other side despite what everyone in the boat is saying
AND
Q:What is one mistake mom's make?
A: The real reason we do not take time for ourselves is because we don't feel we are worth it. We are worth it.
Thoughts?

9 comments:

Jori said...

Very Interesting Beck! I have been reading a book what every mom needs to know can't think of the authors and she says the same thing, that most of the time us moms don't think we are worth it. The one quote about God trusting us when it is dark struck me and I guess I never thought about it that way. I think I may like to read that book. HMMMMM thanks Beck

Beth said...

I think we are made to feel like we have to be super Mom's in todays society, especially by other Christian women. We are told that anyone who desperately needs some time for themselves is selfish. The truth is that without the "me" time we are left feeling run down, short tempered, empty. It wasn't until I started taking time for myself that I became the Mom that I think God wants me to be. I feel better about myself, tend to my husbands needs a whole lot better, and I think it's better for my kids to see that Mom takes care of herself so that I can take care of them.

Anonymous said...

The only thing that frightens me with the statement "we need to take time for ourselves" is that some people can push that statement WAY out of balance. I am not saying that anyone I know would do that, but sometimes I think that some women feel justified to neglect their children or marriage even because they feel that they have earned it.

Erin

alicia said...

Thank you Bec, that will be a must read!! It is sometimes hard to remember that we are worth it, isn't it? At least for me anyway, I'm just so thankful that I have friends to remind me! ;0)And a God who loves me unconditionally!

alicia said...

Hey I'm back, I just actually had a question about something, and wanted to know what anyone else thought about it. Do you think that it would be possible for a mom not feeling worthy enough actually be the reason for both cases? As in a mom not taking enough me time or the opposite, like erin said when a mom takes to much time. I'm just thinking it could be a possiblity that when a mom doesn't feel worthy enough she won't take time for herself but then again maybe the mom that (in our minds) takes to much time for herself doesn't fell worthy as a mom so maybe she just thinks (sadly yes) to heck with it??? Just wondering what anyone else thought or am I being strange?? :0)

Beth said...

Thanks for the something to think about, Alicia. My thoughts on it are a mom taking a ton of time away from the house doesn't necessarily mean that she doesn't feel worth it as much as she doesn't feel that her husband and kids are worth it. In my eyes I think she would be too wrapped up in herself and there would be something else going on with her (maybe she thinks she got married or pregnant too soon and she wishes that she would have done more or wishes that her "free to do whatever" days weren't so far gone. Thinking about it, I have see this happen many times after losing a bunch of weight like after a pregnancy. Or maybe she isn't getting the attention she needs at home from her husband...who knows). I guess there is a fine line between taking "me time" for a refresher and taking "me time" irresponsibly or for ulterior motives. It all depends on attitude I guess. Anyway, those are my thoughts, pretty jumbled up, maybe not making much sense, but oh well.

Rebecca said...

WOW! So much good discussion ;^) I agree with Beth's first comment that we are made to feel like we have to be supermoms in today's society & that we can "have it all" without sacrificing anything, which just isn't true. I think I've been pretty good at taking time for myself & have found that when I don't, I am a little more short tempered and aggravated more easily. I also agree with what Erin said that sometimes you can also go too far in that direction. I think one reason may be selfish or just mixed up priorities. I think another reason moms don't take for themselves is guilt, for whatever reason. I also agree that it seems like when women get pregnant really young or before marriage, they seem to choose different (busier, out of the house more) lifestyles than those that don't. Not that this applies to everyone, but it seems like a trend. Another reason a mom might take too much time for herself is because she is unhappy at home or with how she takes care of her home? Just thinkin' out loud here ;-0

alicia said...

You know you and Beth are really good at getting to the issue. My tounge gets all waggles sometimes, LOL! I just think that this kind of thing really makes me want to reach out to those moms all the more, because if they feel the way you guys are saying and are doing the things they do because of it, then they are not truly believing that God loves them so much and has such a plan for them as moms (wives, if that applies). OHHHH!, I just want them to know the joy that it can be!!!! love you girls!

Beth said...

I agree Alicia, this is a ton of fun(motherhood)! I guess that it's just hard for someone to see when they are so unhappy in their marriage, they are living with so many regrets about what they would have done differently, and they feel like they have been dealt the short end of the stick. It is so sad because in the majority of these cases, the kids are the ones that suffer. I am looking forward to more thought provoking topics and great discussions!! Thanks guys!